I am still in recovery from the Narcissistic ex-partner! Why does it take so long, sigh! I am working so hard at it, and yet I know that recovering from deep grief, loss and disappointment takes as long as it takes. I feel completely shattered by my experience with him and at the same time, I’m doing the best I can to rebuild my life again. Some days I feel strong and resilient, and I feel as if I am reclaiming my life and my heart. Other days I find myself in a heap of tears, self-pity and utter devastation!
Sadly, my love life is reduced to watching “The Bachelorette “with my gin and tonic in hand, watching much younger and more glamorous people than myself, searching for love and that fairy-tale ending. Good on them, I think to myself, for daring to believe, while my disappointment in “Iove’s promises “hurts like hell!
I am tenderly heartened by a quote I read the other day from Brene Browns latest book “Rising Strong”.
“The process of regaining our emotional footing amid struggle is where our courage is tested, and our values are forged. Rising strong after a fall is how we cultivate wholeheartedness in our lives; it’s the process that teaches us the most about who we are.
Embracing failure without acknowledging the real hurt and fear that it can cause, or the complex journey that underlies rising strong is gold-plating grit. To strip failure of its real emotional consequences is to scrub the concepts of grit and resilience of the very qualities that make them both so important – toughness, doggedness, and perseverance. “
Maybe these words will strengthen you as well, whatever challenges you are facing right now.