Speaking our Truth
Today I have been thinking about what a friend recently said. She had wanted to speak the truth about the doubts she had about her relationship with her partner. Instead, she was silenced from doing so due to feelings of obligation towards him. This is not a live-in relationship. It has left me thinking that this is such a common theme for many women, including myself. It is so hard for us to speak our truth for fear of hurting others, disappointing them or risking their rejection of us.
From my work with others and my own experiences, I think it is especially hard to put down such boundaries, for those of us who are survivors of trauma. Our need to keep safe, keep ourselves intact, keep anxiety at bay (even if it means keeping silent about things we don’t feel ok about) takes precedence over telling our truth.
However, if we are awake to this reality I know it is possible, little by little, to learn to speak our truth, honour our integrity, and become more self-compassionate to our vulnerable selves.
More about this later in my next post.