Speaking our Truth

Today I have been thinking about what a friend recently said. She had wanted to speak the truth about the doubts she had about her relationship with her partner. Instead, she was silenced from doing so due to feelings of obligation towards him. This is not a live-in relationship. It has left me thinking that this is such a common theme for many women, including myself. It is so hard for us to speak our truth for fear of hurting others, disappointing them or risking their rejection of us.

From my work with others and my own experiences,  I think it is especially hard to put down such boundaries, for those of us who are survivors of trauma. Our need to keep safe, keep ourselves intact, keep anxiety at bay (even if it means keeping silent about things we don’t feel ok about) takes precedence over telling our truth.

However, if we are awake to this reality I know it is possible, little by little, to learn to speak our truth, honour our integrity, and become more self-compassionate to our vulnerable selves.

More about this later in my next post.

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Clinician, Lecturer, Group Facilitator, Educator and Supervisor in Education, Social Services and Mental Health.

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  • Hertin
    December 20, 2015 at 4:31 am

    Thanks for shainrg. What a pleasure to read!

    • rosmlewis
      Rosalind Lewis
      December 20, 2015 at 8:13 pm

      Hi Hertin,
      Thank you for your response. Hope you find some other blogs I have written helpful also šŸ™‚

  • Karen Nicholls
    December 15, 2015 at 11:33 am

    Brave work. Good work from you, Ros. Helpful!

    • rosmlewis
      Rosalind Lewis
      December 20, 2015 at 8:16 pm

      Hi Karen,
      Glad you found this post helpful. Thank you for your encouragement šŸ™‚



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Rosalind Lewis

Rosalind Lewis

Professionally I haveĀ 33 years experience as a Clinician, Lecturer, Group Facilitator, Educator and Supervisor in Education, Social Services and Mental Health. I currently live in Melbourne, Australia and work in Mental Health. I have a particular interest in supporting and empowering women and men to be all they can be, by assisting the discovery of tools that help themĀ find strength to transform difficulties into opportunities,Ā enriching theirĀ lives both personally and professionally. I am a New Zealand Registered Psychotherapist with PBANZ, member of the New Zealand Association of Psychotherapists and have a Masters of Health Science (Psychotherapy) First Class Honours. My research thesis was about the long term consequences of intimate partner violence for women. I am influenced and informed by both my professional experiences and my own personal journey, which has involved many challenges and celebrations along the way.