Speaking our truth
Today I have been thinking about something a friend said to me recently. She was wanting to tell the truth about doubts she had about her relationship to her partner, but was silenced from doing so due to her feelings of obligation towards him (not a live -in relationship). I thought this is such a common theme for many women, including myself. How hard it is to speak our truth for fear of hurting others, disappointing them or risking their rejection of us.
From my work with others and my own experiences, I think it is especially hard to put down such boundaries, for those of us who are survivors of trauma. Our need to keep safe, keep ourselves intact, keep anxiety at bay (even if it means keeping silent about things we don’t feel ok about) takes precedence over telling our truth.
However if we are awake to this reality I know it is possible, little by little, to learn to speak our truth, honour our integrity, and become more self-compassionate to our vulnerable selves.
More about this later in my next post …..