Choose to be the kind of person you want to be, even in the midst of the unfairness of life.

Coping with the unfairness of life.


Today, I was reminded of a wonderful piece of writing called “The Invitation” by Oriah Mountain Dreamer. Someone at my work place brought it to my attention. I read this piece years ago and reading and hearing it again strengthened me. Here is an extract from it that particularly touches me ……

“It doesn’t interest me what planets are squaring your moon. I want to know if you have been touched by the centre of your own sorrow, if you have been opened by life betrayals or have become shrivelled and closed from fear of further pain! I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own, without moving to hide it or fade it, or fix it.

Each time I go through a time when I have felt betrayed by somebody or by life itself, I am faced with the same challenge. Do I  allow myself to become bitter, cynical and shut my heart down to love, to people and to life? Do I live with an impoverished spirit because of my hurt and my pain?  Do I choose to keep my heart open and live my life from a place of love and generosity? It is a choice each time. How often I have wrestled with the sorrow and the emotional pain, and felt so tempted to give up on hope. Right now in the aftermath of a relationship break-up, I am wrestling with despair and heart-ache and the choice to close my heart down.

Yet, I move to the place of choosing to keep my heart open, because that is value wish to live by. What strengthens me to do this also, are friends who can lovingly sit with my pain and bear it with me. They don’t try to hide it, discount it or fix it.

I choose to be the kind of person I want to be, even in the midst of the unfairness of life.

I wonder how you struggle with these dilemmas, when life is not fair ……

 

 

rosmlewis

Clinician, Lecturer, Group Facilitator, Educator and Supervisor in Education, Social Services and Mental Health.

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7 Comments

  • Melia
    February 3, 2016 at 8:14 pm

    It’s good to see someone thinikng it through.

  • Karen Nicholls
    December 15, 2015 at 11:29 am

    I like your blog a lot, Ros. Well done!

    • rosmlewis
      Rosalind Lewis
      December 20, 2015 at 8:17 pm

      Hi Karen,
      Thanks so much.That is encouraging to hear. All the best to you …
      Ros

  • Jan
    September 17, 2015 at 11:13 pm

    Found you😊 initially the search said ” no matches found” but on 3 rd try it came up.

    • rosmlewis
      Rosalind Lewis
      September 30, 2015 at 11:06 pm

      Hi Jan , just found your comment , technical error on my part ! Were you able to find all posts easily ? Ros x

    • rosmlewis
      Rosalind Lewis
      December 20, 2015 at 8:20 pm

      Glad you found me my friend 🙂
      Ros

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Rosalind Lewis

Rosalind Lewis

Professionally I have 29 years experience as a Clinician, Lecturer, Group Facilitator, Educator and Supervisor in Education, Social Services and Mental Health. I currently live in Melbourne, Australia and work in Mental Health. I have a particular interest in supporting and empowering women and men to be all they can be, by assisting the discovery of tools that help them find strength to transform difficulties into opportunities, enriching their lives both personally and professionally. I am a New Zealand Registered Psychotherapist with PBANZ, member of the New Zealand Association of Psychotherapists and have a Masters of Health Science (Psychotherapy) First Class Honours. My research thesis was about the long term consequences of intimate partner violence for women. I am influenced and informed by both my professional experiences and my own personal journey, which has involved many challenges and celebrations along the way.