Recovery from heartbreak

Recovery ….

Still in recovery from the Narcissistic ex partner! Why does it take sooo long, sigh! I am working so hard at it and yet I know that recovering from deep grief , loss and disappointment takes as long as it takes . I feel completely shattered by my experience with him and at the same



Many of the clients I work with talk about experiencing loneliness . Some say that the therapeutic space  is the only place they feel safe enough to admit that they feel  lonely . Mother Teresa once said  that ‘Loneliness’ is the biggest poverty of the western world . She was commenting on the reality that

Choose to be the kind of person you want to be, even in the midst of the unfairness of life.

Coping with the unfairness of life.

Today, I was reminded of a wonderful piece of writing called “The Invitation” by Oriah Mountain Dreamer. Someone at my work place brought it to my attention. I read this piece years ago and reading and hearing it again strengthened me. Here is an extract from it that particularly touches me …… “It doesn’t interest me what planets are squaring your moon. I


Speaking our truth

Today I have been thinking about something a friend said to me recently.  She was wanting to tell the truth about doubts she had about her  relationship to her partner, but was silenced from doing so due to her feelings of obligation towards  him (not a live -in relationship). I thought this is such a

Keep your heart open

About this blog

The birth of this blog came in the midst of going through a painful, complex relationship break up. I know that what I am experiencing right now ….the shattering of dreams; the heartbreak of grief and loss; the shameful thoughts of “I thought I had got it so right this time and I didn’t “;


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About me

Rosalind Lewis

Rosalind Lewis

Professionally I have 29 years experience as a Clinician, Lecturer, Group Facilitator, Educator and Supervisor in Education, Social Services and Mental Health. I currently live in Melbourne, Australia and work in Mental Health. I have a particular interest in supporting and empowering women and men to be all they can be, by assisting the discovery of tools that help them find strength to transform difficulties into opportunities, enriching their lives both personally and professionally. I am a New Zealand Registered Psychotherapist with PBANZ, member of the New Zealand Association of Psychotherapists and have a Masters of Health Science (Psychotherapy) First Class Honours. My research thesis was about the long term consequences of intimate partner violence for women. I am influenced and informed by both my professional experiences and my own personal journey, which has involved many challenges and celebrations along the way.